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Vulnerability

For those of you who haven’t seen this Ted Talk before (and if you don’t know TED Talks then go here & come back in a week! One of my favourite ones, is Hans Rosling on Stats here) I’m assuming you have now watched and heard Brené’s talk above. If not, go and do it now. It lasts 20 minutes. I’ll wait. . . Ok. What do you think about worthiness now? And vulnerability? I found it interesting that she could through her research group people into those two camps – those with a strong…

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Gratitude

One of the most important aspects of mindfulness I’ve learnt so far is to acknowledge gratitude. I must admit it is something I took for granted but when I’ve actually reflected on how I have behaved over the years, it seems that much of life’s joy has indeed passed me by. This has been because I had failed to notice or I allowed it to pass by without any acknowledgment. I dismissed anyone’s praise. Without gratitude, we will potentially live a life in a quagmire of anxiety and negativity. So, what to do? Keep a gratitude…

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Autotelic experience

It is an end in itself. Look back at a recent enjoyable past event. Why was it joyful? Whilst there are several elements of joyful experience, one part is when it becomes intrinsically rewarding in itself. It is an end in itself. It is an end in itself. I was recently watching my daughter at a riding lesson. She was really concentrating bouncing on the saddle as they trotted but laughing out loud. I found myself intensely concentrating on hearing her laughter. Everything else in the world melted away. When we become so involved…

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Of joy & despair

Things happen, life happens. The last few weeks have been different. The week before last I attended the inauguration of my parents in law as Mayor & Mayoress of Bolton. We paid off our mortgage after several moves and 31 years of making payments. I was offered a new job. Liverpool FC winning their final game to ensure Champions League next season. Attending the leaving party of our popular practice nurse. Helping a good friend and also my sister, celebrate their birthdays. Listening to my daughter play Twinkle, twinkle on her violin for the first time.…

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Gratitude

It’s been a difficult couple of weeks and I didn’t know why? I could stare at my navel and come up with stuff but realistically it was just the rollercoaster of life. Sometimes we’re up and sometimes we’re down. For most, this is just minor fluctuations but for some of us, it’s quite a ride! One way to reduce the fluctuations is to use the mindful practice of keeping a gratitude log! Simply stated, one keeps a daily log of episodes of gratitude. Those of you that journal will already be doing this! It…

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Through a child’s eye

I have recently returned from a few days vacation in Norfolk, UK with my wife and daughter. She is nearly six years old and I spent a good deal of time watching her. It reminds me of how we can lose our ability to notice life. It is so easy to be focused on work and such like, and fail to observe joyful life passing us by. So on the last couple of mornings, I walked to the beach with our dog and stood for a time. Pausing to drink in with each and…

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Rest for a calmer world

As the Easter break is upon us we have a longer weekend to enjoy.  We need to have rest throughout every day, but do you notice? Did you notice yesterday how you spent any downtime? Added to my reading list this week is Haemin Sunim’s bestseller, The Things You Can See When You Slow Down. A central tenet of this book is obviously slowing down to achieve calm, but also to notice the world around us. He points out that we can feel small and vulnerable as we perceive our minds to be small…

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Which is more important? Pleasure or enjoyment?

A professional colleague & friend suggested I read Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi’s ‘Flow – The classic work on how to achieve happiness.’ I’m not that far in it yet, as it is quite a thought provoking book. So this week’s blog is about the difference of pleasure and enjoyment and which one you would rather, in your pursuit of happiness. A life absent of enjoyment does not mean that aspects can’t be pleasurable. There are two main ways to improve life – change the external environment to match our goals (such as buying stuff), and to change how…

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Mindful Meetings

This week has been a week of two halves. I was working the first two days in my ‘day job’, then my mid-week day off but I actually attended a meeting associated with work, and the second half of the week with study days. I have had a rich experience providing me with much to reflect on. I also had a meeting with a friend I hadn’t seen for a while for a chat. Meetings are part of work life but are also a part of all aspects of our lives. We have meetings at…

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Birthdays Part Deux

Keeping in the moment & being mindful can be a difficult task. Waking up and suddenly you find yourself wearing a mask. What did just happen? Can’t I just go back to bed and try this again? Birthdays are difficult as they are reminders of your past. I previously measured my worth by the number of cards I received. I never told anyone generally about my upcoming birthday. Why? I suppose I didn’t want rejection. If they didn’t know, then I wouldn’t have the pressure of whether they sent a card or not. However,…

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